Becoming Impactful Adults: The Power of Self-Belonging and Positive Identity

As young people chart their path through adolescence, many carry questions about the kind of adults they want to become. Beyond the usual markers of success, careers, accomplishments, and accolades, there is a deeper question that looms: Will I make an impact? For youth to grow into adults who are impactful, kind, and courageous contributors to society, they must develop a few essential qualities; beginning with a strong sense of self and an understanding of true belonging.

The Foundation of Impact: Know Thyself

At a recent Youth Day assembly, a powerful message rang clear from our guest speaker, Tebogo Maneli’s words: “Belonging begins with the self”. It was a call to young people to stop seeking validation from external sources and instead to look inward. In a world that often tries to define us by trends, expectations, or other people’s opinions, the journey to impact starts with self-definition.

What do you value? What brings you joy? What are your strengths and what do you want to grow in? When youth begin to ask and answer these questions honestly, they begin to build a sense of identity that is rooted and not swayed by every passing trend.

This is not easy work. In fact, Ms Maneli noted that “you must first fight with the image you have of yourself.” For many, this image is clouded by self-doubt, comparison, past mistakes, or fear of not being enough. But that image can be reshaped into something strong, positive, and true. Changing how you see yourself is not arrogance; it is self-respect.

The True Meaning of Belonging: Acceptance and Inclusion

Often, we think of belonging as something others must give to us, a space we are allowed into, or a group that accepts us. Real belonging is deeper than being included; it is about being seen and accepted for who you truly are. That journey begins internally.

Ms Maneli reminded us that no one can validate your belonging if you do not first believe in it yourself. Acceptance begins with self-acceptance. Inclusion begins with recognising your worth, regardless of who is watching or applauding.

Belonging also means creating space for others. It means understanding that everyone deserves to feel safe, heard, and valued. When you know what it feels like to belong, you become someone who makes sure others do too.

Relevance for the Season Ahead

This message could not be timelier. We are entering a significant season in the school year, one filled with leadership campaigns, subject choices, and examinations. Each of these moments is a test not only of academic or social strength, but of character and self-awareness.

As our Grade 11’s consider putting their name forward for a leadership position, they should ask themself: Do I know who I am, and what I stand for? Because leadership is not about popularity, it is about service, influence, and identity. When you know yourself, you lead from a place of authenticity and compassion.

When the Grade 9’s chooses their subjects, they should think not just of what is expected of them, but of what aligns with their talents, interests, and future dreams. The choices made now are steps toward who they are becoming. Choices should be made with clarity and self-belief.

As our girls approach the examinations, they must remember marks do not define worth. Preparation and performance matter, but so does mental well-being, honesty, and effort. They should study with discipline and not let fear or comparison determine their identity.

Characteristics of Impactful Youth

If our girls are to grow into adults who leave a legacy, they should start cultivating these characteristics today:

• Self-awareness: Knowing who they are, and who they are not, their culture, strengths, and challenges.
• Resilience: Life will be challenging. They need not fear failing, but cultivate a spirit to try again, and get stronger through the process.
• Kindness: Impact does not only come through big speeches or public achievements. It comes from daily acts of empathy and care.
• Integrity: Say what you mean. Do what is promised. Stand up for what is right, even when it is hard.
• Curiosity: Keep learning. Ask questions. Try to understand others. Be open to growth.
• Confidence rooted in truth: Not the loud kind of confidence, but the quiet, steady assurance that your life matters and that you have something to contribute.

Belonging is not earned. You belong because you are here. The real work is not to gain acceptance from others, but to offer it to yourself. Once you do that, your presence, your voice, and your actions will naturally begin to shape the world around you for the better.